Dearly beloved, the audience is collected here today to cope with this thing also known as… a season finale! Yes, its true, present event represents the conclusion absolutely the blockbuster that has been S2 of

Hold Off, Is This A Date?

Also to commemorate that ending, whom far better to seriously and discuss the joys and positive results of a long distance crush, than actor and queer person Elise Bauman? You will identify Elise from Lifetime’s delightful queer xmas rom-com which come away a year ago,

Underneath The Christmas Time Tree
,

but around these elements, she has another concept which nearly as vaunted: Drew’s girl! Yes, that is right, this sparkling twosome was birthed from great queer heritage: the long distance crush.

But what could it possibly be towards long-distance crush which thus attracting queers worldwide? Is it the general scarcity of like-minded queers surrounding you? probably the ability to flirt cross country takes a number of the force down? The 3 folks enter all of it, AND Drew and Elise share some probably also lovely details about their unique connection!

And of course there was a-game! This week, we make Drew have fun with the video game that merely took over Twitter and Tiktok for a few momentary weeks: “they are a 10 but…” its a great time, all over!

PROGRAM NOTES

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Browse Drew’s interview with Jinx Monsoon
!

+ View

Bend it Like Beckham
,

it however rocks!

+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs are… undoubtedly quite persuasive!

+ may Shortz is actually title of the NYT Crossword Editor!

*the a lot more you know*

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EPISODE

Elise

: then we had gotten off the cellphone, immediately after which both of us hopped throughout the cellphone two moments later we’re like, “Therefore, the line is actually shut, we’re legitimately not allowed to really go over the border.”

Christina

: What i’m saying is, top among one of my favorite vocals memos as well as messages i obtained from Drew, i can not remember which form it came in, it was similar, “I made this course of action and now the borders are closed.” Yeah.

Elise

: Yeah, it was an actual moment.

[theme song plays]

Drew

: Hi, I’m Drew.

Christina

: And That I’m Christina.

Drew

: And thanks for visiting

Wait, Is This A Date?

Christina

:

Hold Off, So Is This A Romantic Date?

is an Autostraddle podcast delivered by me personally obtaining giggles, therefore the concern which on everybody’s lips, wait, was this a night out together?

Drew

: we are at the end of the second season, and I also think we solved it, i do believe.

Christina

: Yeah, In my opinion i am just providing large finale electricity, like when comedies used to be before a studio market, and every person would walk-in and there had been one hour of applause since it ended up being like, this is the finally, that is the way I’m experiencing. Though is clear, nobody has applauded myself however, hateful. Thank you, thank-you. Now i’m liked and held. Drew, that you?

Drew

: Oh wow, forgot about that part.

Christina

: Yeah, proper?

Drew:

Possibly season three we’ll obtain the intros. My name is Drew Gregory, i’m a writer for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans lady. Do you know what, I think whenever we carry out another period i wish to have a great one we throw in right at the end.

Christina

: Ooh, something spicy, you intend to jazz it?

Drew

: Yeah, I don’t have anything now however.

Christina

: Okay, leave them hoping even more, I think that’s great.

Drew

: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Christina

: Im Christina Tucker, i will be also an author at Autostraddle, together with net as a whole. A podcaster, a gay dark lady, and a person who’s feeling quite flashy listed here on this afternoon.

Drew

: Great, i am truly glad that you’re flashy and I also’m spicy, or at least I’m planning the chance that someday i will be spicy.

Christina

: Yes you’re like, I’m not sure, the initial 1 / 2 of the movie Dune, the spice should come. Cool guide, women, she actually is solitary. Anyhow, I do have a casino game for all of us to relax and play on this hollowed day’s our finale.

Drew

: Incredible.

Christina

: This Is Basically The traditional, and also by classic I Am Talking About a game that overran the internet and TikTok for two to three weeks, “They Can Be a 10, but…”

Drew

: Ah, fantastic.

Christina

: Now Drew, i will set-out some floor principles obtainable, because I know you adore a follow up question.

Drew

: Great.

Christina

: When I say they truly are a 10, they’re a 10 to you personally by any means that really matters to you, which can be actually, that might be emotionally, this is simply an individual you’re feeling is actually a 10, okay?

Drew

: Okay, okay, thanks a lot.

Christina

: i actually do n’t have any circumstances for just what otherwise you within this individual were carrying out inside online dating existence, you’re merely planning need to go together with your gut and decide.

Drew

: Cool.

Christina

: fine?

Drew

: Yes.

Christina

: We’re going to place where make that clear, here we go. They may be a 10, but they clap after plane lands.

Drew

: I always decided citizens were also remarkable with this particular, in which its like they’re a 10 and therefore thing makes them head to a-two, seriously.

Christina

: Yes.

Drew

: therefore i’m planning however provide a pretty generous eight.

Christina

: Yeah, I think that is fair. In my opinion eight could be the appropriate level of cringe reduction for the little motion. Okay, this will be outstanding begin. Okay, they’re a nine nevertheless they never text you first.

Drew

: and that I can not ask follow through concerns?

Christina

: No, no, no.

Drew

: and so i cannot ask, really do they content me back when we text? I would state a five.

Christina

: Yeah, maybe not texting very first ever, that’s harsh.

Drew

: actually is odd.

Christina

: which is crude stuff. All right, they truly are a five even so they drive you to definitely every errand you have had to operate.

Drew

: which is very nice, but i really could usually… If there were five, I’ll give him a six.

Christina

: Sure, sure. But i understand you adore a solamente jaunt anyhow, you adore an errand run.

Drew

:What i’m saying is today my sweetheart Elise performed drive us to an errand, and I also had been really pleased, however, if which was the only thing she performed we mightn’t maintain an union, which was merely an additional very little great extra.

Christina

: i believe which is fair.

Drew

: Yeah.

Christina

: okay, they might be a seven nonetheless only pretend to learn your projects.

Drew

: understand aspect of that that bothers me is the pretend.

Christina

: Pretending, I knew it will be.

Drew

: It isn’t really the not reading it. As long as they failed to review might work it is like, I am not that, I’d end up being just a little, it is like never ever? But it’s okay, i possibly could get over it. Nonetheless sit in my opinion about this is what’s weird for me, to make certain thatshould go-down to a three.

Christina

: Yeah, appropriate, correct. They truly are a three however they have access to the criterion dresser.

Drew

: And do I get that go?

Christina

: while get accessibility, you reap the benefits of that access, yes.

Drew

: I could have a great fling with this six.

Christina

: i believe you could potentially. It had been a three, but yeah, you are knocking it up to a six.

Drew

: No, no, no, that’s what I’m stating, I’m knocking it up to a six.

Christina

: Gotcha, gotcha. I adore that. They’re an eight but their pals tend to be straight.

Drew

: Okay, there was some discussion about it, because I think there is a you want help. I do believe We possibly was actually on the opposing part of most regarding the Autostraddle team exactly who asserted that truly fine to only have directly buddies. I would like to claim that it’s good, it’s simply perhaps not living We lead. All direct friends, that will choose a two.

Christina

: Yeah, i will have to accept you on that one, i’d merely find it only a little unpleasant, complicated.

Drew

: All right friends?

Christina

: Yeah.

Drew

: If they’re fresh to queerness and therefore are attempting to meet even more queer men and women, that is different than if they’re an existing period queer that is love, guess what happens? I really like getting the one lesbian during my buddy selection of direct men and women.

Christina

: Yeah, i’d have the same way in the event it had been a Black individual who was like, “I don’t have any Black pals,” i’d end up like, “What’s going on there?” Internally.

Drew

: we aren’t in a system sitcom, we cannot have a token individual.

Christina

: you don’t have to end up being the token, you don’t need to accomplish that to yourself. Fine, we’ve three a lot more. They are a seven even so they spend-all their particular leisure time in the gym, continuously weight lifting down and up. I don’t know what folks perform at the gym.

Drew

: All of their spare time. I guess it depends on which counts as free-time. I’ll state a five.

Christina

: Yeah.

Drew

: we’ll bump all of them all the way down two.

Christina

: Bump them down.

Drew

: But that’s great. I suppose it depends mostly for my situation, that we’m maybe not inquiring a follow concern, I’m keeping five, nevertheless is dependent for me what matters as leisure time.

Christina

: Certain.

Drew

: Can we see motion pictures with each other, or go out for eating, is that sparetime? Isn’t work time spare time, or perhaps is it simply like as soon as we don’t possess alternative activities?

Christina

: we hear you, we hear you.

Drew

: But we’ll stick to five.

Christina

: okay. They may be six, but their mommy is sexier than these include.

Drew

: Oh, I don’t know to move up or down.

Christina

: i understand, right?

Drew

: I do not think I could actually ever date some one for their… It really is like basically’m not drawn to some one in the first place, i am perhaps not will be matchmaking all of them.

Christina

: Appropriate.

Drew

: I’m not going to be similar, really, they could end up as their particular hot mommy. I do believe I’d say that they are nevertheless a six, i am only likely to not refer to them as and that I’m going to contact their own mother.

Christina

: Yeah, personally i think adore it’s as you remain the same, but possibly we spend time with you a tiny bit longer than i’d in an effort-

Drew

: that is a great point.

Christina

: to obtain some mom time. I do not think you transform.

Drew

: i did so something actually terrible that we nevertheless feel defectively in regards to, and that’s that a person requested me personally aside, and this was whenever I was in school, and that I had not been curious, and so I ended up being obvious about this, I became obvious I becamen’t curious. But then she wanted to end up being friends, and that I could inform that she said she wished to end up being friends nonetheless it had been via place-

Christina

: She was actually wanting.

Drew

: Yeah. But the thing is the fact that all the woman friends were actually hot and cool, therefore I performed stayed her friend so that you can spend time with her pals. I didn’t lie about my personal objectives normally, nevertheless nevertheless was not the best thing I did as a 20 yr old.

Christina

: after all unfortunately it really reminds myself of these episode of

Sex while the City

where Carrie’s dating, in my opinion it is Justin Theroux, and then he sucks, but his family members stones, and she actually is like, I am able to try this for a little. I am like, yeah, absolutely, which cannot.

Drew

: Carrie was not trying to hook-up along with his family, which is the difference, you know what? It really is good, we’re all great.

Christina

: A hookup can look like something, i am constantly proclaiming that.

Drew

: that is a truly fantastic point.

Christina

: the last one, is actually a three but has a coastline household.

Drew

: I’m going to state an annoying phrase, but I decided to go to NYU.

Christina

: Horrible to state.

Drew

: Something that sucks about myself, which this might be likely to appear to be a simple brag, since it is in fact most likely good personality characteristic, nevertheless sucks as you going through the world. I went to a college that is filled up with rich folks who have all kinds of amazing coastline houses, and all these other activities, and I also just became buddies with individuals have been truth be told there on scholarships. Besides, but mainly, I absolutely, i did not it’s the perfect time with individuals who had beach residences.

Christina

: You didn’t use.

Drew

: Yeah, therefore I believe if they are a three but they have actually a coastline house, they may be probably a-two. The very fact… I don’t know.

Christina

: Yeah, you only can not create that step to use the sick beach residence minute.

Drew

: No, it sucks. But what i am really wanting would be that my friends who’re pretty down-to-earth, great individuals, more of these are simply just browsing continue to get that brand-new money right after which get coastline residences, then I’ll be in a position to spend time with my fantastic pals and get at a beach household. That’s the dream in which I could obtain the beach residence.

Christina

: That’s the dream after the day, it is brand new money and a coastline home, that’s all we’re looking. You heard it here initially folks.

Drew

: Everyone loves new money.

Christina

: Love brand new cash.

Drew

: Love brand new cash. Yeah, that was a delight. I would in fact, I’d actually been wanting to play that online game since it was anything on TikTok, so thanks a lot in making my personal hopes and dreams come true.

Christina

: I imagined it could be a fun anyone to carry out, plus it was extremely fun to come up with them.

Drew

: Well, should we proceed to our very own primary part regarding the few days, that is dropping for folks who live-in different towns and cities. Which can be unique of long-distance connections, because long-distance connections can begin well into a commitment, they could carry on into an union, this is the desire that queer people have to consider their particular spot they stay and get, no, I’m not likely to flirt by using these men and women, i’ll continue instagram.com in order to find a person that lives extremely far away. And then we have a, I’m sure we always state a really unique visitor, but for me this can be a tremendously unique visitor. Want to present yourself?

Elise

: I would want to introduce my self. Was we the special visitor?

Drew

: you’re, yes.

Christina

: kid, obviously.

Elise

: Great, wow, remarkable. I am Elise Bauman, i am an actor, I’m a queer individual, and I’m right here today because i am sleeping with one of many hosts.

Christina

: Guess which?

Elise

: Yeah, all of those other podcast is simply the market trying decipher which host I’m resting with. I really like that, it really is like a murder secret but-

Christina

: there is way to understand.

Elise

: there is no strategy to know. Yeah, performs this make myself a nepotism infant? Is the business works.

Christina

: Yes, that is the way the industry really works, girl.

Elise

: Nice, great.

Christina

: that is it.

Elise

: Wow, possibly I could get a profession from this.

Christina

: Fingers crossed available.

Elise

: Nepo infant to position, wow, fantastic. I’ve constantly wanted to be a nepo child.

Christina

: i am so pleased.

Drew

: Yeah, I happened to be only probably claim that for those who have no idea, really I am just damaging the murder mystery from it all, but Elise and that I come in a relationship, and performed start relationship while in the pandemic, and Elise lives in Toronto, and that I live in l . a ., that are actually various urban centers, as they are actually in various nations.

Elise

: These include indeed, they truly are certainly.

Christina

: And Drew, not saying that you moved against your own gut, but i actually do feel like you might be usually a person who says, the reason why bother with a long length minute? There are individuals here I can date, so why do this to yourself? You realize it’s going to be hard, you realize it will likely be hard, why do this? And yet here you will be.

Drew

: See, that is interesting, because personally i think like I always enjoyed to possess a small amount of both, i recently think i did not use the long distance people maybe as seriously.

Christina

: Maybe that’s all, yeah.

Drew

: But i usually loved a lengthy distance flirt.

Christina

: Real.

Drew

: And so I believe this just stored heading. Once we started-

Elise

: So the answer, Drew, was not that I was just irresistible and it also ended up being personal in my experience, and this was actually really particular for me that I found myself only extremely enticing so that you only smashed all of your current regulations while stated, “i need to have that certain.”

Drew

: I mean its kind of the answer in a lengthier feeling. In the same way so it only kept taking place. After which our close friends associated with pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, exactly who we accustomed live with, as some people may already know, i might always be like, I would end up being wanting to date individuals throughout the pandemic in l . a . in addition to surrounding aspects of l . a .. Immediately after which they would generate enjoyable of myself because I would personally occasionally just be like, “i am talking about, I could merely just be sure to date Elise Bauman.” I became constantly, “i am talking about, {this person|this i
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